As part of Kaupapa Matua this term, we have been focusing on taking ‘action’. We have been learning what to do in situations where we may not feel safe or somebody around us feels unsafe.
We met the local education officer Jeff, he has taught me what to do in situations where I don’t feel comfortable around people, that it is never the victim’s fault for what has happened, different types of abuse. The short time officer Jeff has been here has taught me stuff that my class, friends and family should do in different situations. He also taught us what a trusted person is, it’s a person that will listen and reassure you, will believe you, won’t tell anybody who doesn’t have to know, and will tell you some key things to do if it happens again or if you come across him or her again.
The different type of abuses are sexual abuse, sexual abuse is where you get touched in places you know isn’t right, where you don’t feel comfortable for them to touch and where you do not give them permission, that would be statutory rape because even if you give them permission and you or somebody else giving consent under the age of 16 is Illegal.
Physical abuse is when there is somebody hitting you or somebody that is near you, physical abuse you can physically heal, but mentally healing from physical abuse is very hard and it could take years to heal from. When something starts acting up because they are intoxicated it is best to hide, call close family, or if you can’t call for help go to a neighbour and ask for them to call 111 or a close family member’s number. But if you do get abused physically it is never your fault and to always report it.
Emotional abuse is when people use their own words and sometimes their Insecurities. When somebody is emotionally abusing you then the best thing to do would be to tell a grown up especially when you’re at school during break time it would be best to tell a teacher that is close or a class teacher.
Neglect is also a part of abuse because when you’re ill and your parents or caregivers don’t give you the right treatment that you need is neglect, not showing you the help you need. Or neglect can be like getting treated like a prisoner, keeping you away from your friends, not letting you go to the bathroom to shower or use the toilet, making you eat at certain times or not giving you your daily needs.
Family violence can also be a type of abuse. When your dad is hurting your mum, or your mum is hurting your dad that is family violence and the best thing to do while all that is happening especially when somebody is intoxicated is to tell a family member to come over and sort it out and straight after that call the police, having a older family member to take care of you and possibly siblings. Staying out of violence and taking care of everything else except for violence and letting older family members or the police is the best or a trusted neighbour.
Cyber bullying is also abuse because online you are getting bullied or lies are getting put up about you, family members or a close mate of yours and impacts teenagers and kids mental health. People getting cyber bullied at a young age is very common now and happens quite often. It is not good and telling a family member you trust or a grown up you trust would be best to deal with it then that would get them to stop.